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Self-limiting beliefs hold you down

I've been coaching someone for a while now, and this person is a star. She's a high-level manager in a major organization with a large team. Like most of us, this person has normal concerns at work dealing with personnel, management issues, workload, burnout, etc...but she's top-notch when it comes to thinking through all of these issues and creating solutions, presenting them to the most senior officials, and getting things done.

I was surprised one day when our coaching conversation took an unexpected turn. I learned that this individual, who I'll call Jane D., had aspirations to use her skills and talents for something different one day, possibly outside of the organization she has been so influential in, but she was afraid to step out and try.

"I look at all of the other people out there who are already doing this, and they have degrees, and working with so many other people, and they're well-known, and I say to myself, "WHO ARE YOU TO BE TRYING THIS?"

Jane D., for the first time, told me she's scared. With all of her talent and courage and confidence, she still had the inner voice saying "you can't do it".

This voice creeps in our heads too. It says, "There are so many other people accomplishing what you want to do, and they are at a higher level already. You're nowhere near that level". I saw a quote the other day from a basketball player named Steph Curry. I don't know how long ago this was said, but he compared himself to another player, one who is currently the best player in the world, named Lebron James. Steph Curry said he looks at Lebron (and I'll paraphrase), and he wishes he had Lebron's abilities, but then he reminds himself that he has his own abilities that make him unique, and he has to go out there and be the best player he can be. Keep in mind Steph Curry is the best player in the world at doing what he does, shooting 3-pointers from just about anywhere on the court...and nobody in the world has ever done it the unique way that he has. Lebron James, being the best player, is by far, not even close to being the best at what Steph Curry does. How is that? We each have our own gifts to bring to life and they found theirs, and they co-exist in the same sport, both with a reputation for being "the best".

You don't have to be the best in the world at every skill. You don't have to be better than anyone else. What you have to be is YOURSELF. There is nobody else in the world like you, and when you build your confidence, in who YOU are, you will be able to use your own gifts and bless the world in a unique way.


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